CASE STUDY: this tired mother had tried everything, with no success...
*this is a case study from a real-life mother who reached out for help. We share our case studies in the hope it may help other mums who are in the same, or similar, situations. Not everyone parents in the same way, so please do not judge, criticize or demean these mothers and the parenting choices they have made in the best interests of their babies and their families.
Age: 4 months
Naps: 30 mins of sleep after every 1hr 45 mins of awake time - no set times and 30 mins of settling each time
Room: Baby sleep sack
I didn't understand what I was doing wrong. Naps were killing me. Oliver wouldn't nap in his cot and he wouldn't nap for longer than 30 mins. He wouldn't want to settle for night time until we went to bed, at 9/10 PM and we had resorted to co-sleeping because at about 3.5 months he suddenly refused sleeping in his bassinet. He was waking every 90 minutes overnight and needed to be fed at every wake to resettle.
I had been following all the "recommended" advice available out there on awake times and settling but nothing changed. I knew I was not doing my baby's naps and sleep justice; I could tell because it was such a battle. I was exhausted and did not see how things would improve. We did not want to co-sleep, but that was the only way anyone was getting sleep.
I resorted to Google searching, reading popular baby sleep books (which usually failed us by 9:30am when bubs woke early from the morning nap - I could never recover the day and felt like a failure). I tried just rolling with the co-sleeping, however after 2 weeks of it and all night feeding I just couldn't handle it anymore, then felt guilty because of it. I did ridiculous amounts of internet searching which all pointed to awake times that, I know now, were way too short that lead to an undertired cycle of messy naps. I cannot count the hours lost trying to responsively resettle my baby with long sessions of ssh-patting while he screamed in his cot because he just wasn't ready to sleep.
I was unable to focus on anything else.
The final straw was calling a sleep school and being told that I had to wait 2 months for a phone consultation. I needed a solution NOW.
I hung up the phone to the sleep school and jumped straight on the Little Ones page after seeing their ad on Facebook. I had often read their articles as they popped up on my newsfeed and they always rang true to me. I thought "this is my last hope" and purchased their Baby Sleep Program. Within 2 days of implementing the Program Oliver was sleeping in his cot and only taking 5 minutes to settle to sleep! 2 months later and he now settles himself to sleep within a minute of me putting him in his cot and leaving the room. He sleeps through most nights from 7pm till 7am.
Anna was struggling to find reliable sleep advice which worked for her baby. Based on the information she had found, she was putting Oliver to bed for his naps too early, without him having enough awake time to be really ready for a nap and this meant he was only napping in short stints all day. His poor napping was contributing to his poor night time sleep, as was his very strong dependance on co-sleeping and being fed to sleep. Anna felt the sleeping situation wasn't sustainable for her and her baby and through our Sleep Program she was able to gradually guide Oliver to falling asleep in his own cot without using the harsher "sleep training" methods in the previous routines she'd tried. His newfound settling ability had a positive impact on his napping and night time sleep almost straight away!
"I now feel empowered. I don't obsess over my baby's feeding and sleeping. I have all the knowledge I need. I am a confident mother with a well rested, healthy family. Oliver has always been happy but he is probably even happier now! And now he has predictable, consistent and happy parents; that has to be good for him. Our lives changed the day I bought this Program!"
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